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To lie or not to lie, that is the question?

Well today was the Celebration of Life for the friend and riding buddy who passed away a week ago Friday.

Among the many family members, friends and bike club members attending, there were also a few old friends I hadn't seen in quite a number of years. It was good to see everyone was still doing fine.

Now even though, when I started this blog over two years ago, I stopped trying to keep my lymphoma a secret, that didn't mean I was going to out, and announce to the world I have lymphoma. I was still going to be discreet, only confirming when specifically asked, or if begged to tell what was wrong, which coincidentally two friends had done.

But today, when I met one of those old friends, I hadn't seen in quite a while, he commented he heard I was dealing with my own problems. It surprised me he knew, but I really didn't think much about it, simply commenting I was still feeling fine, which does happen to be true.

But a few moments later, after the old friend went on to talk to others, the president of the bike club, who was standing next to me at the time, and over heard the conversation, asked me about it.

Needless to say, I was caught completely off guard, not knowing how to respond. Should I lie to him, or tell the truth?

Well I guess old habits are hard to break, and my old instincts kicked in. So I lied! I told him I was fine, and even commented, "I look fine, right?" He responded affirmatively, and the topic was dropped.

But now, as I ponder the exchange, I'm wondering if I did the right thing by lying?

Comments

Alan said…
There is no "right thing" in this situation. It's whatever makes YOU feel most comfortable.
Becky said…
It's up to you to decide when, where or at all.

Alan's right there is no right thing to do.

It was wrong of the individual to ask, yet it shows his concern for you.

Perhaps he should have begged?

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